There are reasons you fall for certain people (besides their cuteness), and once you understand the rules of attraction, you’ll be the master of making guys fall for you.
Syracuse University’s Human Sexuality and Love, Lust, and Relationship professor, Dr. Joe Fanelli says, “Initially, it’s about an attraction to someone. Then, for an interest in dating them, there has to be that desire to make a connection.”
Here are some of the secrets behind the science of attraction, and how to use them to make him fall for you.
1. Use your body language
Usually, but not always, physical attraction is the instigator for a conversation, or that first introduction. It may not be love at first sight, but more likely attraction at first sight.
For example, we like the fit, healthy bodies of those Calvin Klein underwear models because, “attractiveness may [unconsciously] provide a clue to health and reproductive fitness,” Fanelli says.
The hottie’s abs and chiseled chest are essentially saying, “I’d give good genes to our babies.” Just what you wanted to know on your first date, right?
Other physical attraction cues may not be so obvious.
“When it comes to chemistry, there are certain people we are drawn to because of pheromones,” Fanelli says. “These may be triggers that signal ‘my DNA is different than your DNA’.”
The pheromones (our natural ‘scent’) aren’t conscious to us, but they may be a reason that initial attraction turns into wanting something more.
Before you even say a word to him, signal your interest with subtle, non-verbal clues using your body language.
How to make it work:
According to Love Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship, we naturally blink faster when we are emotionally excited. Bat those eyelashes to let him know you’re interested without saying a word. People also, “lean toward whatever – or whomever – they find most important at the time,” according to Love Signals. Use this trick and slightly lean towards him, whether it’s in your chair in class, or while standing at the bar… READ MORE ON THE NEXT PAGE